It is so hard to find useful information on how to live with Herpes. People only seem to ever talk about prevention. Well what if you’re Herpes-free, but with someone who carries the virus? You and your partner's choices in this matter are going to vary based on how long you've been together and your unique circumstances. For instance, a woman who is in her third trimester of pregnancy may have to work with her physician to decrease risk of transmission to her baby due to a rare complication that can even lead to infancy death. However, continuing to have a sexual relationship with her partner may be essential to her romantic relationship, and Herpes poses little risk to pregnant moms who have carried Herpes prior to getting pregnant.
6 Other Ways To Decrease Risk Of Transmission
First it is important to explain how the Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) works. Herpes is an STI passed by skin to skin contact. Male condoms do not cover the entirety of the surface area that may expose a non-infected partner to the virus. However the person who carries the virus is not always contagious, or "shedding" the virus. Some of the virus may be shedding off the infected person even when they are a-symptomatic. However, the exposure may be so minimal at any given time that the virus poses little risk if addressed in multiple ways. (Bare in mind that I am not a physician. I am NOT prescribing treatments to anyone. If you're unsure about how any of this might effect you personally due to allergies, disabilities, or other health concerns, go ask a medical professional!)
3 good reasons to Ditch Male Condoms
You and your partner may decide together to ditch male-condoms despite one of you carrying the Herpes virus if
Can you think of other good reasons besides the ones listed here--particularly reasons that involve consent of all parties and avoids shame? Personally, I believe that everyone should have sex under the assumption that they have an STI already (including HSV1 and HPV) unless they only have ever had one sexual partner and that sexual partner only ever had sex with one person as well. If you or your partner is recently infected and wants to learn more about how to manage the disease visit the Herpes Opportunity., check out this YouTube interview with Doctor Peter Leone, or pick up an oldie-but-goody called The Good News About Bad News.
Sexpert & psychotherapist, Quandra Chaffers, presents Sass-y comments on love, health, and relationships--Comments too tangential or racy for the therapy room.