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Sassy Comments

10/20/2017

Self-Care As Sexual Healing

​If you’re a professional with a stressful job you may already have a working definitions of self-care. Self-care generally described as any effort done to increase our well-being. As a mental health professional, I greatly support self-care for myself to prevent burnout because hearing the worst of people’s life stories can actively take a toll. As a sexpert, I also promote healthy coping skills to my clients as they start their journey of healing from sexual abuse and in order to begin having more mindful, fulfilling sex. 

That said, self-care gets dumbed down to being about hobbies and escapism. How often have you heard a colleague say that they’re going to get their nails done for “self-care”? Maybe you yourself have said that. Nail day does not count in my book. Sorry not sorry. Not to say you can’t get beautified at the salon if you so choose (because I know I do), but everything we do in the name of self-care should be intentional and with the goal of avoiding burnout. Meaning, You might have a cute gel set at the end of the day, and maybe it gave you a break before shifting from work to home, but did it make you invigorated to get back to your job the next day? Did it affirm the small accomplishments from your day? Did it improve your health overall?

The best self-care should be holistic: physical, emotional, spiritual, and intellectual.  And sex can actually address all four areas of our well-being.  Sexual Self-Care can be incorporated into all of these categories. 

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